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EGO – Why? Where does it come from

A fellow therapist, not one I know well but one I know of, contacted me to ask for a chat and some guidance a few weeks ago. And, as you know me, I will always arrange time for a cuppa.

What shocked me the most was their question and their attitude towards me when we finally met. Bristly and unfriendly is an understatement as they quickly told me they wanted me to openly reveal why I ‘had to make people wait to see me’ at times, and they were struggling to attract anyone when in their words ‘you don’t do a lot of advertising’.

Instantly I took a deep breath and sat down on my hands, as my heart sank with a ‘wtf’ why me? As my eyes rolled towards the sky for inspiration.

No I don’t do a lot of advertising as the love of my work speaks for itself and my lovely clients have become my voice, but that takes time to build. At this point I thought it better to divert the conversation away from marketing and advertising and see how they were organising their working week and diary. What a jolt I got when they said they don’t open their therapy room unless they have more than one client booked in for the day, and have no problem cancelling or rearranging at short notice for only one. You can only imagine the picture on my face at this point! How many days have I travelled to my room in Ilkley, a minimum of 20 minutes drive on a good day, to see one person and at the last minute they have have to rearrange due to unforseen incidents and accidents. Life happens and that has to be number one consideration when working with people. Be flexible.

A suggestion then followed that they began workshops and courses as people are always wanting to learn. Oh boy I wish I hadn’t asked that question! Yes, apparently they have arranged reiki attunement days but cancelled them as they only had 5 booked in on the day and wouldn’t do it unless they had a minimum of 8. They looked disgruntled and uncomfortable when my mouth opened and out came a screech of ‘What, I’ve never heard such rubbish’ and yes I apologised and blushed at the same time rather quickly. There have been times groups and workshops I’ve arranged have had only a couple of people attend but do you know what, they turn out to be the best days and the ones who are meant to be there, are there. It isn’t about numbers or money earned, it’s about sharing with who needs it, when they need it. Reiki days with me are only ever one to one as I found that works best for those who ask me to do their initiation.

So where did this blog start. EGO, where does it come from? Where does their’s stem from. I believe it is an inflated self belief and over confidence for sure. Yes to be a therapist of any kind we have to have confidence in our ability, but in many instances, and especially with energy work such as reiki, we have to remember it isn’t us. We are only the conduit for the energy to flow through.

Somehow I didn’t feel this would be a 2 cup of coffee meeting as every time I had a suggestion it was talked over or dismissed. But if I can help I will, and then had the idea of them starting a reiki share so voiced it before thinking it out fully. Their reply told me I wasn’t going to get anywhere with this as they told me ‘why would they organise something to help other therapists’. And, they think it’s ok to ask for my help!!!

One lesson I learned early on was that the client comes to you when the time is right for them, not when it’s right for me. Somehow I don’t think they are ready to understand that one yet.

Finally I was asked if I had any of my clients I would share and recommend them to. The conversation came to a full stop when I quietly reminded them people attract people and my clients may not be comfortable with them, as we are different people.

Time for me to make my exit, I obviously wasn’t the one to help them and my cup was empty.


Live for Today

I keep hearing ‘live for today’, but what the hell does it mean. How can you live your life a day at a time. That’s not possible and never will be, in my honest opinion, especially when you have a diary of appointments to keep on different days, often over weeks and months.

Or have I missed something? Wouldn’t surprise me if I have totally missed the plot and please feel free to creatively tell me where I am going wrong.

Mindfulness puzzles me. No I don’t know a lot about it and maybe this is where my answer lies. I have a past and I hope to have a long and prosperous future and as I see it they are both going to affect today. So how do I live for today, when I have already had one and want another one tomorrow. Am I  making sense, or am I rambling again?

I do try to live one day at a time and try not to worry about what goes on around me too much. I try to be organised where I only concentrate on what I have arranged for the one day and try my very best to stick to that, but, anyone who works with the general public will fully understand that you need to stay flexible as things can and do change, occasionally at the very last minute.

What also doesn’t help either is being brought up in a house of constant worry and stress. It’s hard to break the cycle of what we have been taught. But we can only try. In a perfect world it would be so simple just to ‘live and let live’ with a motto of ‘each to their own’.

How do we not let what happened yesterday influence us today?

How do we not let what was said and heard yesterday affect us today?

It’s not easy is it. Or is it? Can we learn to live for today,  whilst ignoring yesterday and not even thinking about tomoorow, that’s another day? Maybe it is.

I truly hope there is an easy answer. Many of us are trying to take ourselves off the worry/stress hamster wheel who wish to live a happier carefree way of life. I hope we all get what we are looking for.




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Does It Matter

In the grand scheme of things, does it really matter?

What am I talking about now? Religion and our inner most faith is what I have been questioned about today. Should it matter to anyone else what my beliefs are, do I have to share it with anyone else? I don’t think so, but there again I’m not your average person and don’t want to be either.

christening the dew the priest

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Today I have been asked what my religion is? And it shook me a little bit because I don’t feel I have a religion and I felt a little uncomfortable answering. But why should I feel that way? I have a faith and a belief that are mine and should be nobody else’s concern.

Yes, as a child of about 3 years old there is one photograph of me with my godparents, Aunt Pat, dad’s sister and Aunt June and Uncle Brian, mum’s closest friends, not our real aunt and uncle, on my shared christening day. There we are all stood proudly outside in the front garden. When I say shared, it was because my little sister Tracy was also christened on the same day at a few months old.

For a long time I used to deny even being christened because all I remember as a really young child was religion causing arguments. Dad didn’t believe in anything, had no faith what so ever and mum was so frightened not to believe that she insisted that we had to be christened. So you can just imagine the rows we used to hear. Eventually dad buckled to the pressure and let mum have her way. The day meant so much to me I have no memories what so ever of any of it, so if I didn’t have the photograph I wouldn’t be able to recall anything. I must dig that old photo out now I am talking about it.

Dad’s none belief was so strong that every Sunday evening the minute Songs of Praise came on the television, up dad would get and off went the tv. Not forgetting in those days there were only one or two channels for us to choose from and the option we had was you either watched what was on, or, you turned it off. As a kid though it was close to bed time so didn’t really affect me. This all coincided with bath, clean pyjamas on, nit comb and fingers and toe nails trimmed. The Sunday night ritual I will never forget.

Once we moved to Canada, after dad died, Sunday school was a habit us 2 girls were somehow lead in to. Each week being collected and dropped off again afterwards, by the strangest lady from the church you would ever meet, and all so mum could have a lay in. I remember the church well, it was on the end of Silver Street, near the beer store but can’t remember the name of it for the life of me. I don’t remember that lasting long though and it didn’t really make such a great impression on me if I can’t remember the name of it.

I do remember the United reformed church in Richmond that we used to have to go to with the Scott family if ever we were lucky enough to be allowed to stay over night on the farm, but it is the memories of us all piling in the station wagon to drive down the road in that I really remember. Two adults and 6 of their children plus me all squashed in and laughing about who could sit where. Sherry and I used to love being able to sit in the rear facing seats right at the very back and upsetting Bob and Bruce because they liked it too.

Can I say religion has paid a big part in my life, no I guess it hasn’t. I can’t say my chosen God parents had any religious influence over me, they certainly never made sure I attended a church. My 2 god mothers are still alive but as life has taken its many twists and turns we don’t see each other any more.

When my daughter was born they only gave her 48 hours to live and I will never forget the nurse’s face when she told me I must have her christened and to contact whoever I wanted to do the ceremony. I flatly refused as I suppose this was the dad in me coming out as I told her boldly that at that moment in time my faith was in the doctors and nurses as well as Becky herself. If it was meant to be that she lived then it would happen. Having anyone come in to say a few words over the incubator and ventilator wouldn’t make the slightest difference to me. And I’m happy to report that 33 years later she is still here, alive and kicking, and still not christened.

Has been of a religious faith made any difference to her life, no I don’t think so, and she’s a big girl now and can choose to follow whatever faith or religion she wishes.

Does it really matter if people have a religious faith, yes it does, if that is what they choose to have. I believe we are all individuals doing our best to live the life we have been given and if we feel we need a belief system, then have one.

But please, be mindful of your beliefs influencing how you treat others. My reply and the look on the person’s face today tells me they won’t be rushing to have a chat with me again.

Twelve week Mediumship Development Classes in Harrogate


Details of the development classes starting on 1st March 2017 at the Spiritualist and Healing Church. The classes will be run by myself and the well known and highly experienced medium Val Triner.

There will be lots of tools to work with that will bring out your ability and build on your confidence and experience. The classes are geared towrds helping you to workcthe platform or carry out private sittings.

7.30pm til 9.30pm each and every Wednesday from 1st March til 17th May

£100 to include all equipment to be used during the classes.

Caring is sharing


What can we do to bring happiness back to us?
What do you need to do for you?

For me, reiki and crystal healing alongside my mediumship abilities brought the happiness and joy back into my life. When i surpressed my gifts it was a dark day in my life. Then when I started sharing everything publicly I found it brought even greater happiness to everyone and even more to me.

Sharing what ever ability and gifts we have can be the answer.
Why not start today 💞

Tarot, Oracle, Angel Card Reading Meet up

First of the card reading group for 2016. So looking forward to sharing the card spread chosen. This will show us what we have coming up for this year along with what to let go of to get the most benefit.

If you enjoy reading your cards for yourself and would love to meet like minded people, why not come and join us.

There is always plenty of laughter and fun where everyome gets the opportunity to give their own interpretation.


Healthful Healing Group http://meetu.ps/2Rtt8v

Tarot, Oracle, Angel Card Reading Meet up

Details in the link to the next months tarot oracle angel card reading group. Lovely to have the opportunity to meditate and work with our cards. Always a good night with lots of enlightenment for each amd every one of us

Tarot, Oracle, Angel Card Reading Meet up

Thursday, Jun 4, 2015, 7:30 PM

Location details are available to members only.

2 Friends Attending

Do you enjoy working with your cards? Would you like to meet with like minded people? Would you like to read for others but have no confidence? Would you like to learn new spreads and understand your cards on deeper level? Would you like to share your knowledge and learn from others?If this sounds like something you would enjoy then come along…

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