I read this quote on the tinterweb the other day and it got me thinking
“Man only likes to count his troubles; he doesn’t calculate his happiness.”
Just what is it that makes us happy? Whilst I am rattling on spend a moment to think about yourself and what makes you happy.
Is it helping others, is it what you own materialistically, is it what you would like to do, is it the memories you have from what you have done?
My life over the last couple of weeks has been manic and crazy with lots of changes going on. For those of you who don’t know my day job is working from the Happiness Centre in Ilkley, healing and running workshops and meditations and lots of other things as well. Well today it started about 10am, one after the other person called in to see me and sit and have a chat. Everyone of them had a trouble that they needed to talk about. The last one left about 3.30 and I was due to go home at 4. Now normally I would have been climbing the walls and trying to sort out all of their problems for them, but for some reason I just sat and listened, didn’t even offer any advice, nowt, not a bean, but.
Do you know what made me happy that day? It was that all of these people knew that they could come to me to offload. There was nothing I could do to change anything for them, that was down to them. They all felt 100% better when they walked back out the door again. At one point I had to ask one gentleman to call back in about ½ hour after he had had a wander around and had a coffee as the lady before him was talking some serious things that I felt nobody else should be hearing. Some days my working life is more like a coffee club than a zen like quiet space.
I wonder what makes some of us all negative and only concentrate on our troubles and some of us all positive and only think of the happy things in life. Do you think there is something we can do to make ourselves happier with our lot.
Someone once said to me, how can you expect to make others around you happy if you aren’t happy yourself.
Maybe it is up to us to spend the time and effort on ourselves first before we try to help others. Life is strange at times and often when these funny days happen it is because we have something to learn from it. My lesson was certainly to think of myself and not everyone else that day, not to take on their worries and woes and leave them to sort themselves out. That is what will make them happy when everything is resolved.
My dictionary says that to be happy you have to be glad or content, lucky or fortunate. So why is it, if we aren’t glad or content we don’t do something about it?
What is it that stops us from being happy with our lives at times?
Maybe if we could work that out just maybe we can make some nice changes to our lives. How many times have you said, I would be so happy if I won the lottery tonight or I would be so much happier if I had a new car, or a new house or etc etc, you know what I mean. Why do we say we would be happier if we had more things WHY????
What does being happy mean to you? Why is it something different to each and everyone of us? If I don’t understand and spend the time to find out what makes me happy how can I expect to make someone else happier in their life. We are all different in our outlook and expectations so let’s concentrate on being different but being happy.
How many of you know people like I do, they moan and groan and always complain. When you offer to help or give suggestions to them they always come back to you straight away with a reason why they can’t make those changes. Then have the cheek to say, it’s alright for you as though you don’t have to do anything to make your life ok and everything a bed of roses.
Maybe we just need to learn to leave them to get on with it in their own sweet way.
All the time I have been thinking of this I have had someone singing Ken Dodd’s Happiness song in my ear. It is still as cheesy as it ever was, for those not old enough to know what I am on about, google it. It will make you laugh I am sure.
Here are some of mine that make me happy on a daily basis that I will share:
Hugs, kisses, smiles, sending time with my family and friends, going on sunshine holidays, being able to pay my bills, having petrol in the car so I can get where I need to be, having food on the table that I like to eat, being able to take the dog for nice long walks in the woods and the fields, having a bit of money in my pocket so can go spending occasionally.
Maybe this time has given us all something to think about and if we aren’t happy with our lives then maybe we can find the courage to make some changes. We all deserve to be happy.