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Firsts – one of many

Why is it sometimes some things stick in our memory and not others.

I saw on Facebook the other day that a neighbour of ours that I remember fondly from Spencer Road was having a birthday as one of her daughter’s had posted. It was wonderful to see a recent photo of her as it was just how I remember her, she hasn’t changed at all, and to be able to pass on birthday wishes meant so much.

So what is this particular memory that popped up? Well. It was the day my dad died. Which I find strange as it was 45 years ago. So why now? Who knows but just maybe it needs talking about.

You see Dad had been in hospital for maybe, days, weeks, even months at this stage, and being a kid it all blurred in to one so I’m really not sure how long it was. All I know is he wasn’t at home and hadn’t been for what seemed like forever. That one particular morning we were all woken up by the phone ringing and mum dashed downstairs to answer it, it must have been early as we were all still asleep which wasn’t normal for me as I was usually awake from 6ish each day, to my mother’s dread, as still even today, my eyes open and I start talking! I will never forget the colour of that phone either for the rest of my days, it was a cream and beige brown one with the number dial on the front and the handle sat in the cradle at the top. Moments later she called my older brother downstairs and it all went quiet. It was only then us 2 girls were called down and you know, when you just know it’s not good, each step on the way down was in slow motion, so unreal in so many ways, it felt as though I floated down each and every step, already numb against the shock that was to come.

My mind has then gone blank. I don’t remember being told, I don’t remember who sat where and I don’t really remember what happened next. Until I know I was going to call for my best friend at the time, for school who just happened to be in the same class as me, and her mum answering the door instead of her. Somehow I knew her mum had to go sit with my mum as we were going to school and mum would be on her own until we came home at lunchtime, but I don’t know if I was told to ask her or not, I just knew I had to do it. So I asked her to go see mum as we set off down the road to school, as you do as an 8 year old with not a care in the world, or so it seemed. Luckily we only lived a few hundred yards away from our school and used to run up and down the snickets to get there so we didn’t have to walk near the busy road. That bit makes me chuckle as it was the early 1970s and not many people owned a car so you can just imagine how not busy the roads were compared to today’s. And yes I’m showing my age here but to an 8 year old, roads were dangerous and we couldn’t run near them but we could run free down the backs of the houses.

The school morning must have been the same as any other as again it is a blank. That is until lunchtime. You see, that year in junior school we had the nicest teacher ever. Miss Forward. I’ll never forget her as she was one of those teachers who really cared. She left a long lasting impression on me as to what a teacher should be like for the rest of my school days. Everyday as I left to come home for lunch, I would have to walk past her desk, as my seat was in the middle of the centre row, and she would quietly ask me ‘how is your dad today?’ Every day I would reply ‘fine thanks’, but not this day. I remember I stopped, looked her square in the face and replied, ‘he died this morning’ and just walked off, and headed home for my lunch. When I look back now, what a shock I must have given her. I know I said the words in such a matter of fact way it took all of my strength to say those dreaded words without crying and then I just tootled off. But i don’t know why I knew I hadn’t to cry. Instinct, who knows. I often wonder if she needed something stronger than a cup of tea that lunchtime.

And I’ll be totally honest. The rest of the day is in a blurr and I don’t remember anything. I guess even as a child we have coping mechanisms that kick in without even realising

Yes, looking back this was a devastating day for me, as my life changed dramatically from then on, but as they say out of ever sadness comes a joy and I strongly believe without the kindness of Miss Forward, the fabulous neighbours that we had then and the closeness of dad’s family I wouldn’t be who I am today. And that is what I am so thankful for.

One thing I would change if I could is that I wish death had been spoken about more openly in our house. I know I certainly didn’t understand the impact that day would have on me for the many years to come. And, as an 8 year old didn’t know what death meant.

I know it’s not an easy subject to discuss but it happens to us all at some point and it goes on around us every single day. It’s inevitable, it’s part of life. Please let’s start to be open about what it means to us and what ee believe happens, open up our emotions especially, with our kids, with our loved ones. I would hate to think any other child were going to spend years lost and searching for what was missing, as I did.

The day of dad’s funeral is another day entirely that sticks in my memory but that’s another tale for another day, when I’m feeling brave enough.

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Happiness

I  read this quote on the tinterweb the other day and it got me thinking

“Man only likes to count his troubles; he doesn’t calculate his happiness.”

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Just what is it that makes us happy? Whilst I am rattling on spend a moment to think about yourself and what makes you happy.

Is it helping others, is it what you own materialistically, is it what you would like to do, is it the memories you have from what you have done?

My life over the last couple of weeks has been manic and crazy with lots of changes going on. For those of you who don’t know my day job is working from the Happiness Centre in Ilkley, healing and running workshops and meditations and lots of other things as well. Well today it started about 10am, one after the other person called in to see me and sit and have a chat. Everyone of them had a trouble that they needed to talk about. The last one left about 3.30 and I was due to go home at 4. Now normally I would have been climbing the walls and trying to sort out all of their problems for them, but for some reason I just sat and listened, didn’t even offer any advice, nowt, not a bean, but.

Do you know what made me happy that day? It was that all of these people knew that they could come to me to offload. There was nothing I could do to change anything for them, that was down to them. They all felt 100% better when they walked back out the door again. At one point I had to ask one gentleman to call back in about ½ hour after he had had a wander around and had a coffee as the lady before him was talking some serious things that I felt nobody else should be hearing. Some days my working life is more like a coffee club than a zen like quiet space.

I wonder what makes some of us all negative and only concentrate on our troubles and some of us all positive and only think of the happy things in life. Do you think there is something we can do to make ourselves happier with our lot.

Someone once said to me, how can you expect to make others around you happy if you aren’t happy yourself.

Maybe it is up to us to spend the time and effort on ourselves first before we try to help others. Life is strange at times and often when these funny days happen it is because we have something to learn from it. My lesson was certainly to think of myself and not everyone else that day, not to take on their worries and woes and leave them to sort themselves out. That is what will make them happy when everything is resolved.

My dictionary says that to be happy you have to be glad or content, lucky or fortunate. So why is it, if we aren’t glad or content we don’t do something about it?

What is it that stops us from being happy with our lives at times?

Maybe if we could work that out just maybe we can make some nice changes to our lives. How many times have you said, I would be so happy if I won the lottery tonight or I would be so much happier if I had a new car, or a new house or etc etc, you know what I mean. Why do we say we would be happier if we had more things WHY????

What does being happy mean to you? Why is it something different to each and everyone of us? If I don’t understand and spend the time to find out what makes me happy how can I expect to make someone else happier in their life. We are all different in our outlook and expectations so let’s concentrate on being different but being happy.

How many of you know people like I do, they moan and groan and always complain. When you offer to help or give suggestions to them they always come back to you straight away with a reason why they can’t make those changes. Then have the cheek to say, it’s alright for you as though you don’t have to do anything to make your life ok and everything a bed of roses.

Maybe we just need to learn to leave them to get on with it in their own sweet way.

All the time I have been thinking of this I have had someone singing Ken Dodd’s Happiness song in my ear. It is still as cheesy as it ever was, for those not old enough to know what I am on about, google it. It will make you laugh I am sure.

Here are some of mine that make me happy on a daily basis that I will share:

Hugs, kisses, smiles, sending time with my family and friends, going on sunshine holidays, being able to pay my bills, having petrol in the car so I can get where I need to be, having food on the table that I like to eat, being able to take the dog for nice long walks in the woods and the fields, having a bit of money in my pocket so can go spending occasionally.

Maybe this time has given us all something to think about and if we aren’t happy with our lives then maybe we can find the courage to make some changes. We all deserve to be happy.

Fantastic Friday

Well what a week this has turned out to be and I am glad to say it is Friday. What I thought was going to be a quiet week turned out to be the total opposite. Not that I am complaining at all. For those of you that know me you will understand how I need to be kept busy otherwise I end up in all sorts of mischief.

Yesterday saw the new mediumistic group meeting up again to work together and learn new methods of connecting and communicating. It was a difficult night for us as the messages were coming though but the energies were very heavy and we all struggled. As I tried to point out this is a good thing as it teaches us all that when working with spirit energy it isn’t always easy. Everyone has been in contact today and have expressed how they feel and now understand the effort it sometimes takes. Looking forward to seeing everyone again next month and the new exercises planned already.

Today I have been on reception at the Ilkley happiness centre. This is my Friday job as I call it. What a lovely group of people that have called in. Such a variety of queries and problems to help with. This is one place that does try to cater for each and everyone of us with whatever life gives us to deal with. Tonight I will be copying the tarot reading CDs that have been created this week so they can be in the post tomorrow. Kansas and Liverpool are the postage destinations for royal mail this week. Wonder where in the world I will be lucky enough to travel to via Skype next week. 📩📫

Tomorrow is another busy day for me with a day of reiki level one attunements arranged. Always enjoy a day of working with those who wish to start on their own personal healing journey.

I hope you all have a funtastic weekend whatever you do. Enjoy

Crystal of the month November – Mookite

The month of November reminds us that another year is nearly over as we start to think towards the coming year and all it is going to bring for us. This is a good month to reflect on what have been both the highlights and low lights of 2012 for us. To seriously think about what we would like to achieve for ourselves over the next 12 months and to allow our desire for new experiences to be reawakened.

This time Mookite has been chosen as our favourite crystal of the month as it has a wonderfully calming energy to carry with you during your daily life. One of its specialities is that is helps one to move forward in life with ease and gives the confidence to believe in your decision making process. It openly encourages balanced thoughts and allows you to remain flexible and honest with any new ideas you may have.

Mookite is an astonishing stone for those who feel they are alone or just lonely. It is also a great stone that is available to help those who are often kind to all others and forget about themselves and it reminds them to start to think of themselves in a kind and loving manner too.

Mookite is a variety of jasper and is often referred to as Australian Jasper. It is available in a blend of colours ranging from mustard yellow to deep burgundy red.

When used in a healing environment it is beneficial to the immune system and for purifying the blood.

Wearing a piece of Mookite will allow you to be versatile in your daily life as well as pointing out all of the opportunities that are available to you at that time and assists in choosing the right path to follow.

Crystal of the month of October – Sardonyx

The month of October symbolises the end of the summer months and a shedding of the old starts for the year. The dark and dismal days of winter are finally starting to show themselves as the nights draw in and the evenings become darker and colder. Winter will be upon us before we know it.

For this reason Sardonyx has been chosen as my favourite crystal of the month. It is here to bring in a sense of happiness by dispelling any feelings of depression. The specific vibrations will allow you to rediscover the delights in your life. It can be of benefit to those who wish to attract friendships on all levels as well as bring in good fortune. Now who would say no to an abundance of good fortune before the year ends ……

Sardonyx is known as the ‘stone of virtue’ as it symbolises strength and protection, its energy promotes integrity and virtuous good conduct throughout the many areas of our life. It is perfect for gridding the home and garden as it is a wonderful crystal for repelling crime and deterring unwanted intruders. How perfect would that be for us all at this time of year.

Sardonyx is a variety of onyx that contains multiple bands and layers of carnelian and chalcedony and is available in the different colours of black, red and brown.

When used in a healing environment it is beneficial to the lungs and bones as well as re-sensitising the sensory organs and immune system.

Carrying a piece of sardonyx with you will increase your stamina levels and self control as it supplements your willpower and strength of character.

Crystal of the Month of September – Citrine

We find ourselves in a time of transition and transformation during the month of September, when the seasons once again start to change from late summer to early autumn. This period is known as the Autumn Equinox and this year it falls on September 22nd.  For those that are unsure, Equinox means equal length to both day and night time hours, ie 12 hours exactly and this is also an important time in the calendar as it signifies the first day of Autumn.

For this reason, Citrine has been chosen as this month’s favourite crystal to work with. September is the perfect month for us to look back at what we have received, experienced and learnt so far this year and give thanks before we start to prepare ourselves for the long, dark winter months ahead.

As the nights start to draw in, the arrival of colder days and longer hours of darkness can strongly affect our mood. Citrine is known as a happy and joyful stone that has the ability to bring about a deep feeling of euphoria and light heartedness. This makes it perfect to use in the coming months.

The Autumnal Equinox can also be known to some as Alban Elfed, Autumnal Equinox, Cornucopia, Fall Equinox, Feast of Avilon, Festival of Dionysus, Harvest Home, Harvest Tide, Night of the Hunter, Second Harvest Festival, Wine Harvest and Witch’s Thanksgiving.

Citrine is also a wonderful stone for manifesting our future wishes and dreams and removing any negativity and self-destructive tendencies that are with us that could be holding us back from achieving our desires. So carry your piece of Citrine to help you say thank you for what you have received and for what you have to look forward to in the future.

Did you also know that Citrine is one of the most powerful stones used for attracting wealth. Place a piece in your purse or wallet, cash box or on top of your cheque book.  A selection of pieces are available for you to purchase from The Happiness Centre from £1.  Try it and see what happens for you, you could be surprised.

If you would like to enjoy the benefits of a personal one to one crystal healing please email me on healthful.healing@yahoo.co.uk or telephone 07736 929614 to book your appointment today

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