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Holding on

Where do we go wrong in life when we don’t understand what is good for us and what isn’t? Why do we struggle to let things go? Why do we have to hang on to things?

Today I am going to try pushing myself out of my comfort zone. Anyone with me ?


Hello everyone,

Can I just start by saying what a strange few days I have had. This weekend has been a busy one, as I have been away working with my tarot cards and trying to earn some extra pennies.

It had been planned for months, and this was to be an enjoyable weekend where nothing was going to get in the way of some fun and learning.

And, this is when it started. The guilt !!!

I was going away and leaving them, left at home to it. All on their own, without me. How would they cope. Now normally in our house it is my hubby who goes away for a few days a month with work, and when he goes he never looks back, takes his bag and off he goes. Waving merrily until he returns with a Honey I’m home a few days later.

He never feels the guilt, he just leaves me to it and I carry on regardless.

So this is my main question tonight, why do some of us feel the guilt and others don’t. Is it a female thing or does it apply to the men too. I can’t answer that one as am not a bloke but I do wonder from what I have seen.

Friday morning I left home bright and early with a long day ahead, carrying out a couple of reiki healings which was fine and all went well, but, my darling hubby had said I could use his car for the long drive as it is more comfortable and powerful on the motorway than mine. Which I thought at the time was really nice of him, he even had it valeted, which is saying something as he doesn’t bestow a lot of time on looking after it and keeping it clean. So as you can imagine I felt pretty honoured.

Well it got to about 4.30 and time to set off, and I can tell you the shakes set in and the mind took over. It was like a greyhound out of the starting gates. Oh my goodness what if I crash it, what if it gets scratched, but worse than that what if it gets stolen!!! How dare I leave him with my little banger to have to drive around, why should I have the comfort for the weekend.

I am the only one that thinks like this??? Why do we have times when the mind takes over and we become totally bonkers over it all.

Now remember I haven’t even set off yet. But worse than that I suddenly realise I have all this panic running round in my head over a piece of metal that carries a Skoda badge and is at least 7 years old. It’s insured so if anything goes wrong its covered. It’s not an Astin Martin or Masseratti that is worth stealing, it’s a Skoda. How stupid do I feel now. I am sat stationary in the car laughing at myself by this point. If anyone had walked past and seen me they would have thought I had really lost the plot.

All this just because I am going off to spend a couple of days doing something that I enjoy. Something for me, where I am meeting new people from across the world and learning something new. FOR ME.

And it doesn’t include them.

Why do we struggle with doing something for ourselves?

Why can’t we not say no when someone asks us to do something for them and we clearly can’t or don’t want to.

What is wrong with us, why do we put everyone else before ourselves.

Why is it more important to make others happy and not ourselves.

As you can guess I have had a bit of a revelation this weekend. Maybe that’s a good thing, maybe it’s not, time will tell.

If you are one of the lucky ones that can honestly say they have never felt guilt over anything please will you have a word and let me know your secret please.

So after giving myself a bit of a wake up call, off I go. Simon Mayo on the radio to listen to, the windows down and a bit of fresh air coming in and all is going well until I hit the A65 and the brain takes over again.

Did I leave enough milk? Will he be able to sort himself out with something to eat, will he look after himself properly

Does he have enough clothes clean, will he remember to pay the window cleaner, on and on it went, round and round in my head. I could feel myself nagging him to remember all of this from a distance, it was ridiculous. But it just wouldn’t stop.

The really funny thing is he did over 20 years service in the army and can cook better than I can and certainly knows how to look after himself better than I could.

What the heck was wrong with me. Guilt at leaving him, that’s all.

Does anyone have episodes like this or is it just me!!!

By the time I arrived a couple of hours later I had sorted myself out and thought, do you know what. Blow it, I am going to enjoy this weekend, even if it kills me. I have been with my hubby 28 years, if he can’t sort himself out now, he never will.

I thoroughly enjoyed having breakfast made for me, and a few drinks in the bar talking about things that I enjoy with people who I had something in common with.

It was such a brilliant weekend that I am sure another one will be planned very soon.

I would like to leave you with a sentence I found on the internet today. Guilt is a supreme waste of time and energy.

So next time you have feelings of guilt creeping in, just remember those words.


What exactly is synchronicity? I keep hearing this word crop up in every day conversation and wondered if we really know what it means. Sometimes when we hear a word repeated it is because it is just a buzz word of the moment, or something we need to take note of.

With this in mind I have been asking what others around me think. One lady I have known for a while and thought I knew quite well told me she doesn’t believe in synchronicity or fate. She believes in coincidence. This then got me thinking what is the difference as I believed they were all about  the same thing. Most have the same idea I did.

The dictionary tells me synchronicity is when something happens at the same time.

Twice one morning, within the space of 10 minutes, I asked my husband a question at the exact same time he was going to ask me the exact same question. I have to add here it does unnerve him when I do this and it happens quite often between us.

Yesterday a lady asked if she could book in for a quick tarot reading as as she had an easy question to ask. When I packed my bag for the days work that morning I wasn’t going to take a deck as thought I should have a day off for once. But, something made me go choose a deck at the last minute. Which I did and, thank goodness I did, otherwise the poor lady would have had to wait. Is this a coincidence, fate or all 3.

Today I was in the right place at the right time to be able to hold a healing session for a person I have worked with previously who just happened to be passing and had had a seriously stressful week at work. All they requested was a crystal healing for deep relaxation.

So which do you think it was? Synchronicity, fate or coincidence that brought us together this afternoon? I personally believe it was all three. We were both in the same place, at the same time and free to connect without any other influences. These are only 3 instances that immediately spring to mind on this Friday night.

Our friend Mr Collins tells me a coincidence is when an event may have been arranged but it wasn’t, it just happened and that fate is something that will happen to you in the future and we have no control over.

So, after discovering what the dictionary’s have to say I guess I have to conclude we are all maybe, partially, correct. No matter what events we are faced with in our lifetime we will always have control over some things but definitely not over everything.

Would love to know what you think and does synchronicity exist in your life. I sure believe it does in mine.

Reiki and Pregnancy

Over the many years that I have been practicing Reiki & Seichem I have been asked on various occasions whether having a Reiki treatment would be beneficial during pregnancy, so I thought I would put a few words together so you can decide for yourself.pregnant lady

Pregnancy can and does take its toll on the female body, the change in body shape, fluctuations in emotions, increases and decreases in hormones and general tiredness to name just a few. Women are now realising that the whole process does not need to be as uncomfortable as we are lead to believe it can be. Under these circumstances a Reiki treatment can have many benefits for both mother and her growing baby.

For those of you who have never tried a session before, I can only emphasise how safe and natural this holistic method of relaxation can be for you. This is a wonderful way to spend an hour of your time that will help bring your energy levels back into balance and improve your overall sense of well-being as Reiki is known to only work for the good of the person.

Reiki can be received as often as well as at any time during pregnancy as it is a very calming and de-stressing therapy and is particularly beneficial during the first trimester of pregnancy when the body is preparing itself for the changes to come. During the latter stages the Reiki energies can be given whilst you are sitting in a comfortable chair rather than laid down. It is absolutely fine to fall asleep during the treatment, you will still receive the full benefits.

The main aim of the treatment is to re-balance and rejuvenate you and sometimes I may be asked out of concern for the unborn child, which is totally understandable, will my baby also receive the reiki? I will be honest and say I do not know for certain.  But, on one occasion a lady was getting concerned as her baby was beginning to slow down and not move as often as she would like so she asked the question will my baby share in this experience and also feel refreshed afterwards. So, we carried out an hours treatment and within 24 hours she had contacted me to say, “Oh no what have you done!!! It is like I have a little kick boxer in there now”. So we can only assume that your baby will share the experience with you, but be careful what you wish for if you don’t want to be prodded and poked from the inside out as this poor lady felt.

There is a lot of information on the internet and in books about Reiki and how beneficial it can be during pregnancy so below I have listed only a few of the main points as there are far too many to include in this short write-up.


v  Can be laid down or sat up, which ever position is most comfortable for you at your stage in the pregnancy

v  Helps to reduce anxiety and stress

v  Does not interfere with any other form of medication or relaxation

v  Can be received at any time during the pregnancy, can be given right up to and during the birthing process, unlike some other therapies

v  Is believed to reduce fears and relieve any concerns relating to your pregnancy and birth

v  Is proven to bring relief to tired and aching parts of the body and reduce feelings of exhaustion

v  Is a wonderful way to create a true connection between mother and child

v  Helps to restore deep and peaceful sleep patterns

v  Is said to aid in the relaxation during labour thereby reducing tension and pain

v  Some people say that if they have received Reiki during their pregnancy their babies are a lot calmer and less fractious in the early weeks

Should you find that you truly enjoy a Reiki treatment there is no reason why you and, or, your partner could not be attuned to carry out Reiki treatments on yourself and your unborn child.

Please feel free to contact me if you have any questions or would like any further information.

Crystal of the month of July – Rhodonite


The month of July is recognised as the holiday season and the start of what can be, to many parents, a stressful time during the children’s school break. Holidays are meant to be a relaxing and happy time to be spent away from the mundane realities of daily life such as work and home. This in itself can cause additional stress and anxiety as we often put greater expectations on ourselves and those around us during this time.

That is why Rhodonite has been highlighted for the month of July. It is known as a ‘first aid gem’ as it helps to balance out the emotions along with soothing an often jangled nervous system. This gemstone vibrates with so much love that sometimes just holding it allows relaxation to flow to us and brings a deep sense of total well-being.

Rhodonite helps us to realise we need to respect ourselves and to know our limitations, also to become aware that everyone in our circle of family and friends have their own limitations too.  We must always remember that no matter what is going on around us, we are always aware of how amazing we really are.

As Rhodonite is one of the many love stones it can help when dealing with stressful problems within any of our relationships.  It has the ability to show us both sides of an issue. Thereby helping to forgive those who have wronged us and most importantly how to forgive ourselves.  It not only makes us aware of the love that is around us but how deeply loved we truly are.

The colours found in Rhodonite range from a light pink to dark red and often include brown-red, green, yellow and black veins. A greater variety in colour is available as it is a common crystal mined in many countries throughout the world.

Talking of holidays and first aid, this gemstone is an excellent wound healer and gives a wonderful relief to insect bites. It reduces swelling, itching and any scarring. It is suggested that holding the stone over the sight brings relief both internally and externally.

All crystal collections should include Rhodonite as it is so helpful in reducing our stress levels.

If you would like to enjoy the benefits of a personal one to one crystal healing then please email me on healthful.healing@yahoo.co.uk or telephone 07736929614.

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